How the family unit is being destroyed in the West
Feminism, toxic ideologies, the "hook-up" culture and high expectancy remove the freedom of emotional expression, causing both men and women not to be capable of opening themselves up emotionally.
Men and women have not been in a more degrading state with regards to romantic relationships, and this is all due to the forced ideology of progressivism, which took away the freedom of people to express themselves truly.
Feminism has made women equal to men in the wrong way, and women have been conditioned to simply expect a cordial approach from men by default, which in turn has taken away the freedom of men to get to know women they like and naturally walk the extra step to show their genuine interest in them.
Nowadays, an increasing number of men have chosen not to engage in dating due to the lack of freedom to express themselves emotionally. Genuine feelings are now being considered weak and “expired”, as society is focusing more and more upon physical needs to be fulfilled after the first date.
Society believes that men who wish to wait until marriage are too conservative or not up to date with its current state of “progress”.
Big corporations have also been prioritizing the abortion “culture” over the ancient-preserved family values, and women who choose not to continue with their pregnancy are getting paid by such corporations, which I believe to be absolutely disgraceful!
This does not mean that mothers are inferiors to fathers; not at all! The truth always lies somewhere in the middle, and just because men and women are biologically different from one another, it does not mean one gender is inferior to the other.
What went wrong and how can the relationship between men and women be improved?
The solution is simple, but few may know it.
It is not true that men or women are right. We all made mistakes and each mistake has its unique value.
No, men should not become part of the MGTOW movement and hold grudges against women at more or less conscious levels. If we do, we are only going to become counter-extremist in our approach and favor gender-related conflict, which I am sure the globalist overlords would absolutely love to see, as it serves as another useful distraction from them and their heinous crimes over decades and centuries.
We also have to acknowledge that some men are abusive towards women and we should visibly dissociate from such a mindset. Women are more precious than so many men may know, and the moral price paid for such abuse is unimaginable.
Relationships between men and women were not created and decided by us, but from outside of our dimensions of perception and will, so we cannot just decide to detach ourselves from the possibility of finding the partner for whom we would develop the most profound love of our lives. We cannot cancel our greatest innate love for our mothers!
Dear fellow men: we must not forget that it was our mothers who gave birth to us! Who can be greater and stronger than our mothers? Please, let us not be blinded by our biggest enemies: our own ego and pride.
Dear ladies, I sympathize with your desire to be loved and cared for by a man. This is completely natural and part of the normal diversity in humanity.
I humbly believe you cannot expect men to just pay for the date without allowing them to choose to show you affection and walk the extra mile for you. Otherwise, you will prevent them from getting to know you, and consequently, there can be no genuine attachment between you two, meaning that you will subconsciously see each other as strangers.
By taking away a man’s choice to pursue you, you are now allowing him to become a true gentleman, which in turn will prevent them from becoming capable of transforming you into a mistress, a very well respected lady.
The problem is, of course, in both sides and operates bi-laterally.
Dear gentlemen, I know this may sometimes be hard for you, but please turn the other cheek when a lady is too demanding, and then take the best decision for yourself without hurting her.
Answering to negativity with other forms of negativity is not the solution. Only water can quench fire, and we all have to operate with a fine level of wisdom to resolve this highly complex societal problem.
For example, using other kinds of personal and gender-specific attacks by means of self-defense will only contribute to a further overall separation of men and women.
The solution is for men and women to have a serious conversation and acknowledge each genuine pointing of mistakes.
Men should not expect love from women because of nice gestures they may have made, as love cannot be forced or appear artificially.
Women should not expect anything material from men just because they started showing affection toward them.
Affection is natural, and nature always proves our expectations wrong. A continuous run toward certainty will only bring certainty further from us.
For example, I show unconditional love to my neighbor, as it is not only expected, but commanded from the God I believe in. That does not mean I will be shown love or that I will find a lady who will be interested in me. Maybe I am not called for a marriage. Who can know or predict such a thing?
I believe that many men choose not to be engaged in dating as a reaction against the effects of feminism. But this reaction does not stop the problem. Rather, it puts fuel to the fire.
If fellow men as such do not see this, then they are risking an inability to eliminate the grudges from their heart and are consequently preventing themselves from loving and knowing themselves. Reacting as such may be a marker of “needing a relationship to be happy”, when no one needs a relationship to find the purpose of their life.
I do not need to eat to see why I am alive; rather, I need to see the purpose of life to enjoy the aspects of life, which are important in their own way.
The court system in the West is infected by feminism, and consequently, many judges are likely psychologically conditioned to trust and favor women over men, despite the claims that feminism is about gender equality.
There can be no equality if the objective of this ideology is to get revenge over past patriarchy. There is no equality and harmony in revenge, but only further blindness and hate.
The solution is likewise a return of all of us to a thorough level of humility, which sprouts peace and complete harmony in couples.
Men and women are biologically unique and likewise, they make unique mistakes. As a result, it is both women calling out many men’s ego and men calling out many women’s pride correct. But such correctness does not cancel out the fact that none of us is better than each other. Although life emerged from mathematics, it is more complex and multi-dimensional.
We ought to be wise, humble and human in our interpersonal relationships.
Spiritual people do not say they are wrong. Spiritual people say, “I am the most wrong on Earth and it is I who needs most correction. The biggest enemy of mine is no one else, but me, and I ought to actively seek that the negativity within my character is removed in the right timing and with the right level of discernment”.
Suppose that I have a partner and she calls out my ego. I should say, “You are right, my dear, it is I who needs plenty of improvement. Please forgive me if I hurt you or disappointed you”.
If she did something wrong to me, I should forgive her, delay a conversation about the matter for as much as possible, until the plank is out of my eye, as Jesus Christ said.
I humbly believe it is time for all of us to return to our true origins.
The Western gender ideologies have sadly affected many women from Ukraine the most.
It is sad to witness Western men being financially set up by women who only wish to become richer on the expense of their partner, who may be genuinely interested in them.
Well, dear ladies as such, please learn how the real world works and acknowledge there are certain unspoken social values we all require to abide by.
According to an analogy, a dark room cannot be cleaned without having the lights switched on first so one may see what needs to be cleaned.
Turning the lights on, in this case, is one becoming enlightened about the personal shortcomings, rather than making excuses and making various accusations against others.